Settling in France means immersing yourself in a unique way of life, a blend of traditions, conviviality, and sometimes… contradictions! To integrate well, it's best to know some everyday codes — those that make people smile, surprise them, or can sometimes confuse expatriates.
The kiss on the cheek: an essential social ritual
In France, people often greet each other with one, two, or even three kisses on the cheek , especially among close friends or colleagues. In the professional world, however, a handshake is preferred. Don't be surprised if not everyone kisses everyone else: it depends on the context and the region!
Lunch and coffee breaks: sacred moments
Here, lunchtime is sacred. Forget about wolfing down sandwiches in front of the computer: the French often take a whole hour (or even more) for lunch, and adhere to fixed meal times : lunch around noon, dinner around 7:30–8:30 p.m.
The coffee break is also a key moment in the workday: it's a time for exchanging ideas, discussing current events, and building relationships. These moments are essential for understanding the local rhythm and culture.
The weekend market
On Saturday or Sunday mornings, the streets come alive around the local markets : fruits, cheeses, flowers, cured meats… It is a true French ritual, both practical and friendly, where you chat with the traders and taste local products.
Strikes: a deeply rooted tradition
Strikes are part of the French landscape. They are a form of civic expression that many French people consider a fundamental right. It may be surprising, but demonstrating and defending one's rights is part of the culture.
Complaining… a national sport
The French have a reputation for complaining often , but it's actually a way of debating and exchanging viewpoints. Passionate, sometimes heated discussions are part of everyday life and a way to share opinions, especially on politics or current events.
Irony and humor
Sarcasm is very common in French communication, often based on self-deprecation and irony . Understanding this subtlety helps avoid misunderstandings and allows for full participation in informal conversations.
Wine, bread, water, and a tip
Wine is part of French heritage. You don't need to be an oenologist, but knowing how to appreciate a good glass during a meal or as an aperitif is often seen as a sign of cultural openness.
In France, bread and water are always free in restaurants, and service is included in the price. Leaving a tip is not mandatory but is appreciated when the service has been particularly warm.
Cycling in everyday life
In major cities like Paris, Lyon, and Bordeaux, cycling has become a common mode of transport . It's a feat we're currently stealing from the Dutch; it's an integral part of modern urban planning and the daily lives of residents.
Fashion and appearance
In France, and especially in Paris, style matters . Even a casual look is usually polished and well thought out. The capital remains a global benchmark for fashion and elegance, and your appearance can influence first impressions.
Informal and formal address
In French, choosing between using "tu" and "vous" is essential for respecting social norms. "Vous" remains the standard in formal situations or with strangers, while "tu" is reserved for close friends, very familiar colleagues, or younger generations. Paying close attention to the context helps avoid awkwardness.
Sofime Council
Integrating is first and foremost about observing, listening, and adapting. Our teams—often expatriates themselves—will help you understand these cultural nuances and quickly feel "at home" in France.
